When the patient makes progress, as it is evident that Bill is doing, one must be sure to compliment him, to give him a figurative pat on the back. He is doing it all, and he deserves the credit. The only credit that I will deserve is that which enables me, as therapist, to recognize what it is that he is doing, and enables me to help him do what it is that he needs to do. Bill knows, even though I haven't said it, that I am complimenting him. The indirection of that suggestion may be more pleasing to him than if I actually said,
"Thank you, Bill. You too, realize that I said it both ways, directly and indirectly."
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