Once the child has been taken through the ISE, and is no longer
affected by it, I like wrapping up this part of the process by permanently merging the adult and child back together. I will usually do it something like this, talking to the adult/client, "Well, you promised that you would always be there for her and never let her down. Do you want to be able to keep that promise?" I wait for the inevitable "Yes," and continue, "In a moment I am going to make it so you can. I'd now like you to tell her that you love her three times with a brief pause after each time because I am going to do something very special. Begin."
The client says, "I love you."
I press down on her shoulder or arm and say, "She trusts you."
The client says, "I love you" for the second time.
I take the client's hand and say, "Now the little one shrinks down like a little doll that fits into the palm of your hand."
The client says, "I love you," for the third time.
And I take her hand a lay it upon her chest over her heart and say, "Now she goes right inside of you next to your heart, where you can always be there for her, never let her down, where she will never be alone and you can always be there to love her and understand. How does she like it in there?"
The client will respond that, "She likes it."
I'll go on to say, "Is it all right with you if she stays there always?"
The client will respond, "Yes."
Bonus Tip: In some cases I like to go a little further here and do a simple version of what I call the Informed Adult Technique. Here, we turn the tables on the adult who has been giving all of the support to the child. I will say, "Let me speak to the little one, one more time." Speaking now to the child, "Well, grown-up has helped you out a lot today hasn't she? How would you like to help her out now?" Wait for the inevitable "yes" response.
And then I continue, with the child repeating what I say, "Good, then tell grown-up, now I'll be here for you. I'll never let you down either. So you'll never be alone. Because I love you and understand."
Then I turn my attention back to the adult client and ask her, "How does that make you feel?" And your client will respond, indicating that it makes her feel good.
I can then guide the child to inform the adult that she can now make any changes that she wants to make. Usually I will focus on what the client has come in to work on. But if the child wants to encourage the adult to make other good healthy changes, by all means I will be happy to encourage that to.
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