"The only important thing is the sensations you experience. So focus where you're being touched. Experience the texture, temperature, pressure and movement. Immersed in feeling and sensation. Nothing to do but to feel and experience the pleasure.
"It can be exactly as it was [name a time when things went well, e.g., before you moved to California; in Hawaii]. You can feel the same feelings, experience the same sensations and pleasure, and function just as you did then. Everything can be just as it was in Hawaii. Just as much pleasure, just as much fun. Everything exactly the same." [This suggestion may be used in conjunction with mental rehearsal or age progression.]
"I wonder if you know how really excited you can be, how truly, totally turned on, feeling arousal from your toes to your nose, in every nook and cranny of your being.
"I wonder if you can find a way of enjoying this. Some way of making it your own and enjoying it for your own interests, growth and pleasure. Some people get into it because they like giving pleasure to their partners. Some people because they feel it's an important skill for themselves. Some because they're curious about what they can learn. There are lots of ways of getting into this and enjoying it. I wonder what way you'll find.
"A man who can only give pleasure to his partner is halfway there. It's also necessary to be able to take pleasure for himself. To ask for it, direct it, focus on it, luxuriate in it, and be totally immersed in it. Learning to take and experience pleasure is so important to being a good lover.
"You can't give up control until you have it, so what you need to do is take more control. Ask for stimulation when you want it, and get it exactly, precisely as you want it. Be in charge and get just what you want, and enjoy the feeling of taking control, being the director of what happens to you.
"Just as you have been focusing on sensation in the last few moments, engrossed in the feelings in your chest, so you'll be able to become focused and immersed in sensation when your wife caresses your arms and legs.
"Just as you functioned well and had satisfying sex before your baby was born, so you'll be able to function well and have satisfying sex in the future. As it was before, so it shall be."
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