I wonder if you may be one of those people who feel that they can't settle for less than perfection, and perhaps even that you may as well not even try if you can't do something perfectly. Many people make themselves miserable by striving to be superior, the best, the first, or perfect. They become enslaved, striving for the mistaken goal of perfection and superiority. They mistakenly believe that the only thing worth being in life is a star — above other people, the best, the first, or perfect. That is a belief that will bring misery. Expecting perfection from yourself and others leads to disappointment and depression because we are all human and imperfect. When we have a goal of perfection, we will just automatically feel inadequate, because we can't reach such a goal.
I think, however, that you can be pleasantly relieved, when you change your goal from perfection, to being competent and making a contribution. Life can be so much more enjoyable, so much more rewarding, when our goal is simply to do things well, and just keep gradually improving. I want you to appreciate the value, the benefit, of accepting yourself as imperfect, but in the process of growing, in the process of gradually learning and getting better and better.
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