Ways To Develop Your Self Esteem
Courage and Confidence
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The inner smile is a technique that is taught by Mantak Chia, a Qigong master and author as well as Ken Cohen, another Qigong master and author, and by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Mahayana Buddhist author. We can do the same thing to ourselves. Our minds and internal organs will thank us for it by functioning more efficiently with greater health. If you just wish to relax your muscles, the inner smile is one method you can use.
I begin now to feel and know that my self-respect and confidence are expanding more and more each day in every way. I do realise that in the past I felt helpless and overwhelmed and I am now replacing that with confidence, strength and self-control. I am a more and more happy person now with a more progressively positive attitude towards life. I am succeeding now in more and more of the things that I do and I discover more and more the abilities necessary for my own interpretation of success.
When the Dalai Lama started coming to the West, he encountered the problem of low self-esteem for the first time. When first asked about it, he did not know what the term meant. And this was not just a problem of translation The very concept was unknown to him. From a Buddhist point of view, there is never any reason to feel bad about oneself. No matter what mistakes you have made, you are a future Buddha. Nor is this just a philosophical attitude. Tibet had not been infected with the vicious microbe of low self-esteem. Of course people everywhere experience negative emotions, and Tibetans are no exception. But negative emotions with low self-esteem and negative emotions without it are quite a different matter. If you feel positive about yourself overall, it is not terribly difficult to pass through negative moods, learn their lessons, and come out the other side, perhaps stronger and wiser. But if you do not feel good about yourself at In the West, negative emotions present a special...
I now become more and more aware of the self-confidence growing within me. I am more and more self reliant, self confident and filling up with more natural independence and determination. I have opened my mind to the inner security that was lying dormant within me in the past I have awoken it and continue to develop it and build upon it. I am updating myself, as I am more and more self-confident. I think confidently, I talk confidently, and I project an aura of natural self-confidence. I am more naturally independent and filled with more and more genuine, appropriate inner security. I am more and more self-confident internally and externally. My inner confidence has emerged and continues to emerge and grow. My self-esteem is increasing. My self-confidence is increasing. I feel and am more appropriately enthusiastic about my life and look forward to any of the challenges that may present themselves. I now breathe life with new optimism, with new enthusiasm. A happy, self-assured inner...
As we saw earlier, some form of suggestion or conditioning can alter a person's self image. In his approach, Maltz considered experience a key factor in creating and or modifying self image. The successes and failures we have experienced in the past condition our future. They are the reference points on which we model our behavior. For example, do you remember the first time you drove a car You were probably extremely nervous. Each of your actions required a concentrated effort. Why Because your experience of driving was very limited, you had few if any memories upon which you could model your present actions. Gradually, as you acquired more and more experience, your actions became more accurate and effective, until you finally reached a point where you could break, steer, change gears, make complicated trajectory calculations and turn up the volume on your car stereo, all at the same time, with hardly any effort at all. When our self image is positive, forged on memories of success,...
Dictionaries define amour-propre as ''love of one's self.'' In its French and Latin roots, propre also hints at property rights. Do I somehow feel that I ''own'' myself as ''property,'' and that I belong only to my very own self Then these attachments to self stop me from giving myself freely to other persons. Furthermore, excessive degrees of self-love extend themselves beyond vanity and narcissism into conceit.
It suggested that you have been tricked into believing that what you seem to be is what you are and all that you can be. In exploring this idea, you have been introduced to some of the basic concepts of clinical sociology regarding the nature and development of the self and of self-esteem. On the way, you have explored your own self-concept. Then we turned to the question of how you can transform yourself. We have worked on two steps of the self-transformation process scanning your present and mocking up your future. We have also developed the following Key Principles
When Jason says, Jim is really getting stressed. He must have some difficult clients right now. , it's not a judgment. It's an observation, which is good. When Cathy responds and says, I know what you mean. He has never handled stress well. When he blew up at Ken the other day, he was so rude. He can't control himself, and I'm really tired of his attitude, that is a judgment. Cathy makes a statement of opinion as to what kind of person he is and how he is wrong for being that way. If you judge others, you may think you're doing it to gain rapport or take a side. But you may alienate yourself by showing lack of self respect. If you aren't internally well aligned, you may find you have a need to judge others in order to feel better than they are. Being judgmental is a dead giveaway that you have issues of incompetence and insecurity. Don't play in to that trap. Respond in a way that strengthens your position of self respect and self esteem.
The bigger the building, the stronger the foundation. Once the building is fully constructed, the foundation is hidden. It is buried deep into the earth, yet supports the entire structure. When we forget our roots, our foundation, life is full of stress and fear. Only by diving deep within, can we reconnect with our own roots, our own foundation. Meditation is the science of self-discovery, self-understanding and self-transformation. From meditation, we remember who we are and thus, re-gain our self-respect and our love for life. That is why meditation is a primary, foundational issue for all of us. We have to pay attention.
We may help others with warmth and kindness. Yet, if our hidden motivation is to gain a feeling of self-worth or of being needed, or to feel more secure by taking control of things, we are exploiting them. Understanding this point allows us the sensitivity to restrain ourselves when the most appropriate help is to let people handle situations by themselves. In this way, we avoid others' resentment or rej ection because of our pushiness. It also helps us to avert the oversensitive responses of feeling unappreciated, unneeded, unwanted, or worthless when others decline our help.
3 Ego strengthening techniques hold considerable promise for the modification of depression on theoretical grounds. A negative view of the self is one of the primary components of Beck's (1979) cognitive triad. Hartland (1971) popularized the concept of 'ego-strengthening' and utilized it in much of his therapy to reinforce self-reliance and a positive self-image. (see Hammond, 1990, for a useful discussion and a range of hypnotic approaches to ego-strengthening).
I am not saying here that the child is deprived of love and affection indeed the child might develop a good sense of self worth or PSI. All I am saying is that child is more likely to doubt his or her ability in the academic field even if both children in the above examples had exactly the same IQ. Then you almost certainly suffer from a negative self image, NSI, and more than likely a negative ICF.
Beyond its positive value in any hypnotic encounter, ego strengthening is a necessary and liberally applied ingredient in the provision of hypnosis and self-hypnosis strategies for children struggling with depression. Ego-strengthening suggestions are intended to (a) increase the patient's ability to cope by developing both self-confidence and competence (e.g., in anything desired and also in self-hypnosis), (b) reinforce self-reliance, and (c) help develop a positive self-image (Hartland, 1965, 1971). With specific reference to depression, the intent of ego strengthening is to foster a sense of self-efficacy to counter the prevailing feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, and negative self-attributions characterizing the depression. Brown and Fromm (1986) suggested that there are three kinds of ego-strengthening suggestions general ego-strengthening suggestions, specific suggestions intended to facilitate the discovery and enhancement of the patient's inner coping...
Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and the inability to listen to others, I am committed to cultivating loving speech and deep listening in order to bring joy and happiness to others and relieve others of their suffering. Knowing that words can create happiness or suffering, I am determined to speak truthfully, with words that inspire self-confidence, joy, and hope. I will not
The exuberant pontiff navigated the myriad of tunnels as if he had been through them thousands of times and he did so at lightening speed. The craggy tunnel walls were lined with torches that whizzed by in quick little blurs as the super-charged V-12 engine in the back roared with a reassuring hum of complete self-confidence, jettisoning us through each new corridor along the way with ease.
Yapko (1986) has stressed the potential importance of addressing family enmeshment, perfectionism, poor self-esteem, and distorted body image, and of using behavioral prescriptions as well as hypnosis in treating anorexia. He emphasizes the importance of individualizing treatment to unique dynamics and personality. Metaphors are one important component of his treatment. He stresses, however, that such techniques may be contraindicated in cases when the physical condition of the patient is too poor for meaningful engagement, when the patient is too fragile, unmotivated, or suicidally depressed, or when the patient does not have rapport with the clinician. (Ed.)
This not only affects the lives of men and women but it means that people tend to get confused or bothered when the situation doesn't fit our programmed expectations. When wives start making more money than their husbands, they both tend to have problems with their respective roles. Men are supposed to be the breadwinners, right If you're not, then you're not a real man. This is another value judgment to watch out for. It can be a real killer of self-esteem and of relationships. Powerlessness is an especially devastating condition. If you feel powerless, you tend to lose self-esteem, to feel that your life isn't worth living. To feel frustrated, hopeless, and helpless. To resort to liquor or drugs to make you feel better. But once again, as attempts to attain negative goals, these are nonsolutions that can only make things worse for you.
We can all learn the lessons that fighting with hunger can teach. Rumi emphasized this by writing, Fasting is the first principle of medicine fast and see the strength of the spirit reveal itself. All religions teach some form of fasting for this very purpose. Even nonreligious self-improvement programs emphasize gaining mastery over the body's urges as a way to develop self-control, self-esteem, and good personal habits. It's not that we have to go on a diet, but rather that when we feel hungry we should sometimes try to put off eating for as long as possible so our stomach knows who the boss is. After a while it gets easier and easier to do. That simple act of willpower empowers us in all other areas of our life, as well, and it costs nearly nothing to do just a simple, occasional delay. Rumi wrote this
Ericksonian strategies were interwoven throughout Sue's therapy. Such approaches included metaphors to help her learn a more compassionate level of self-acceptance in nurturing her emotional self, and utilization of interests in mindfulness meditation, physical exercise, and spirituality. These tools were used to implement several principles of working indirectly with pain patients (a) a deep trance state is not necessary (b) structure activities that modify the experience
Internal absorption is a relatively early state, a further surge in amplitude into hyperawareness. Simultaneously, it deletes vision, hearing, and the sense of one's physical self-image. These sensate losses seem referable to an inhibitory blockade down at the level of the ventral thalamus, mediated by the back of the thalamic reticular nucleus. Not so in kensho.
VDhamma Niyama order of the norm eg the natural phenomena occurring at the advent of a Boddhisatta in his last birth
It is this doctrine of Kamma that gives him consolation, hope, self reliance and moral courage. It is this belief in Kamma that validates his effort, kindles his enthusiasm, makes him ever kind, tolerant and considerate. It is also this firm belief in Kamma that prompts him to refrain from evil, do good and be good without being frightened of any punishment or tempted by any reward.
Have a good look at this factor, insight, the third aspect of the threefold training. Get to know it, and you will come to regard it as the highest virtue. Buddhist insight is insight that results in backing away from things by completely destroying the four kinds of attachment. Those four attachments are ropes holding us fast insight is the knife that can cut those bonds and set us free. With the four attachments gone, there is nothing left to bind us fast to things. Will these three modes of practice stand the test Are they soundly based and suitable for all in practice Do examine them. When you have another look at them you will see that these three factors do not conflict with any religious doctrine at all, assuming that the religion in question really aims at remedying the problem of human suffering. The Buddhist teaching does not conflict with any other religion, yet it has some things that no other religion has. In particular it has the practice of insight, which is the...
Ego-strengthening suggestions for improved self-esteem, body-image acceptance, hope, and coping skills for transition back into their families, homes, and communities were found to be quite effective in making the patient recovery period more positive. After the patient had achieved his or her deepest level of hypnosis, suggestions were included such as and as the days go by . . . you will find that your attention is less and less focused on your liabilities . . . your disabilities or your changes of appearance . . . and more and more focused on your assets . . . your strengths . . . and your inner resources . . . such as appreciation and pride in . . . your self-control . . . cooperation . . . intelligence . . . and inner fortitude . . . never allowing you to quit or give up . . . and becoming more . . . and more . . . fully aware in attitudes . . . beliefs . . . and feelings . . . that despite your body's differentness from the way it was . . . you know that differentness is never...
John Hartland pointed out that only a few patients will let go of their symptoms before they feel confident and strong enough to do without them. Hartland's ego-strengthening techniques are comprised of positive suggestions of self-worth and personal effectiveness. I view ego-strengthening as analogous to the medical setting in which a patient is first strengthened by proper nutrition, general rest, and weight gain before a radical form of sur
Trance ratification is a basic, yet often neglected, hypnotic principle. Through eliciting various hypnotic phenomena, patients may come to realize that they have undiscovered potentials beyond their conscious capacities. This realization increases patients' sense of self-efficacy and confidence that they have the inner resources needed to change (Bandura, 1977). It is recommended, therefore, that you provide from time to time a trance ratification experience for your patients.
How might meditative training reduce the pain of rejection and social exclusion Consider some of the factors involved in the anguish you feel when you've been hurt socially. The ''hurt'' depends on how sensitive you are, and on how you've been conditioned to react each time you have been snubbed. Have you had experience in remaining more objective in such situations Or, is your fuse so short that you've even considered reprisals against that person who damaged your self-esteem If so, wouldn't you be better off if you could dampen your reflexive response patterns on both the sensory and the motor sides
Ego-strengthening techniques are designed to enhance self-esteem and self-image. However, there are times when it is vitally important to correct a deficit in interpersonal skills through modeling and either rehearsal or covert, mental rehearsal (Bandura, 1969). Waxman's (1989) ego-assertiveness training provides modeling and mental rehearsal to promote feelings of self-efficacy and assertiveness in specific contexts. This method seems particularly indicated for patients who lack confidence and who are passive, unassertive, and threatened in specific interpersonal situations. (Ed.)
From the limitations that are undermining your self image. Of course the aim here is not to create some kind of inflated, false image that has nothing to do with your real potential. You simply have to see yourself as you could become, and let that image impregnate your subconscious mind for a period of 21 days, which is the time it usually takes to develop any kind of new habit, or become accustomed to a new situation, whether it be to a new hairstyle, house, job, etc. When we use our mind to modify our self image, thoughts must be accompanied by emotions. The event that marked young Alfred Adler did so because it had a powerful emotional impact on him. This is exactly what happens when we modify our self image if we imagine details, colors, odors, sensations and emotions with enough sharpness and clarity, they can actually replace previous images which are detrimental to our progress.
You have the post hypnotic suggestion protocol on CD 11, so that you can use the trance, you induce a behavior, have some amnesia, then add trance and some self esteem suggestions again so that you have a nicely, tightly wound package in order to create behaviors and elicit those from other people.
KARMA CLEANING PROCESS, CLEAN THE KARMA FROM PAST LIVES, FUTURE LIFE, FUTURE LIFETIMES, SOUL FRAGMENTATION AND RETRIEVAL, INNER CHILDREN, INNER SABOTEURS, SELFISH EGO SUB-PERSONALITES, LIFE DESTROYING STRATEGIES, THE ALOOF, THE INTERROGATOR, THE VIOLATOR, THE SELFISH COMPETITIVE STAR, THE VAMP OR DON JUAN, THE PLEASER, THE BLAMER, THE CRITIC, THE KING, THE SELF DESTRUCTOR, ALL THE DESTRUCTIVE VOWS FROM THIS AND PAST LIFETIMES, THE CREATION OF SELF LOVE, LOVE AND SERVICE.
A whole series of cognitions may contribute to the maintenance of obesity, such as the attitude toward eating, poor self-esteem and the way they perceive and experience their bodies. The Spiegel & Spiegel technique (1978) described earlier, where suggestions are given that 'overeating is harmful and poisons the body', may help the patient to change their attitude toward overeating. Meanwhile, patients can once again become conscious of feelings of hunger and satiation, which can be suggested systematically during the trance (Kroger, 1970). Obese patients very often have strong feelings of inferiority, they feel weak and powerless against their problem. They may perceive and experience their body as a great threat and even have feelings of disgust toward their body. During hypnosis, ego-strengthening suggestions can be made in order to favorably influence the sense of self-esteem (Brown & Fromm, 1987). And now that you imagine yourself beginning to lose weight, you may become more and...
That can create all kinds of other difficulties later, one of which, as an example, might be just purely people's self-esteem. Why not use the resistance they're going to offer anyway in such a way that it will build their self-esteem, get them to like you more in certain respects, build on conscious rapport and at the very same time still allows you to sneak your suggestions in through the back door.
To ego-strengthening is to utilize experiences, particularly of mastery, in the personal life history of the patient. We may view the patient as having internal resources waiting to be tapped and utilized. This more indirect and experiential style was characteristic of Dr. Milton H. Erickson's method for enhancing esteem and self-efficacy. The example modeled here is one of moving from dependence to independence, as well as gaining mastery. Other early life experiences that may serve as a source of positive age regression include learning to walk, to talk, to read, to ride a bike, to roller skate, to swim, to drive a car, to skip rope, and to multiply and divide. The next contribution by Dr. Murray-Jobsis provides an excellent example of this approach in her suggestions about learning to crawl and walk. Hypnotic induction and trance-deepening should have been done prior to facilitating these experiences.
Then, we think of someone who always asks us to do things for him or her because of lack of self-confidence. We try to imagine facing the person without feeling that the request is an imposition on a seemingly concrete me whose kindness everyone abuses. Instead, we imagine (4) To dispel discomfort at receiving affection, we remember feeling threatened and stiff when a loved one kissed us. Receiving physical displays of affection, however, does not rob us of our independence. It cannot render us into a baby who is no longer in control. Realizing this, we do not make the person feel like a fool by saying something nasty or by being passive. We picture the projector cutting off the triplistic movie of a seemingly concrete grown-up me, a seemingly concrete degrading you, and a seemingly concrete act of expressing love as something childish. As the wave of anxiety quiets, we try to relax and imagine accepting the show of affection warmly and responding in kind. If our discomfort is due to...
Discouragement is a factor too often overlooked in sex therapy. Many patients simply no longer believe that they will ever be able to experience passion and interest or to perform adequately. However, perhaps due to the popularized images of hypnosis as mystical, some patients come to therapy with a belief that hypnosis can do for them what they cannot do for themselves promote change. Hypnosis may be used to provide hope, increased feelings of self-efficacy (Bandura, 1977), and confidence that change can occur. Trance ratification procedures can convince patients of the power of their own mind and of hypnosis to help them. When patients feel an arm levitate and float up involuntarily, they are often convinced that this thing called hypnosis may, in fact, be capable of doing something for them. Similarly, when a glove anesthesia is created in a hand so that a needle may be painlessly put through a fold of skin on the back of the hand, patients are convinced that they have more...
It should also be noted that premenstrual syndrome (PMS) patients may be benefited by self-hypnosis training (Hammond, 1988d). Hypnosis may assist these patients to reduce such primary symptoms as anxiety, overemotionality, and anger (Hammond, 1988e). PMS patients commonly feel out of control, and experience diminished esteem and depression. Self-hypnotic techniques offer PMS patients a self-management skill that allows them to regain feelings of control, and it may be used to increase ego-strength and feelings of self-efficacy. Hypnosis may further assist such patients to cope with premenstrual cravings for sweets and salt, which seem to exacerbate the condition, and to cope with fatigue and insomnia.
A fundamental characteristic of Elite Buddhism is its obsession with meditation. Or to put it another way - for the rhetoric of Zen Patriarch Dogen (q.v.) and his ilk aside, Americans rarely sit in meditation just to sit - Elite Buddhists are extraordinarily concerned with how to get enlightened. 'But that's what Buddhism is all about ' the reader may be saying. True, no doubt, for the Buddha himself, and for his immediate circle of monastic disciples. True also for a small percentage of monks and nuns down through the centuries in various countries of Buddhist Asia. But Buddhism has historically consisted of a whole repertoire of ideas, practices, and institutions, and Elite Buddhism in the United Sates is characterized not only by its tremendous emphasis on meditation but also by its 'selecting out' of so many other items. To choose just two examples the almost total absence of the central Buddhist institution of monasticism, and a noticeable lack of interest in the ethical...
The following presentation derives from the abhidharma discussion of the five major disturbing emotions naivety, arrogance, longing desire, jealousy, and anger. Other-voidness teachings provide the most detail about their deconstruction into deep awareness. Since low self-esteem is rampant in the West, we shall expand the scope of the classic presentation of the five major emotions to include related emotions that arise within the context of self-disparagement. In doing so, we follow the Buddhist commentary tradition of filling in a classical text with logical implications that adapt its teachings to specific situations. Shantideva's method of countering pride, competitiveness, and jealousy by exchanging the viewpoint from self to others suggests the analytical tool we shall use shifting the aim from others to self. A syndrome related to arrogance occurs when we transpose self-aggrandizement to others. We feel that they are inherently better than we are, in all or in just some...
When it has been determined that psychological and unconscious factors do not play a role in the problem, suggestive hypnosis may then be introduced. Thus it is next recommended that you determine whether strategy II techniques (e.g., suggestions for anesthesia, ideomotor turn-off of pain, imagery modification) are successful in alleviating or managing the distress. When these more straightforward techniques are not entirely effective, we may then experiment with the more complex techniques that fall under strategies III and IV. These techniques will be particularly beneficial when pain is chronic and where several pain sites are identified. Certain techniques (e.g., time dissociation, imagining pleasant scenes) are primarily useful with patients who can be inactive, at least for segments of the day. For instance, if a patient is imagining a future or past time when they were not in pain, this inward absorption precludes simultaneous interaction with people or the performance of...
If you don't have feelings of love in this moment, fake it with the inner smile exercise mentioned elsewhere in this book. In a nutshell, you are smiling at yourself and your internal organs, beginning with your third eye, physical eyes and jaw. The more you fake it, the more real and genuine the love becomes, leading eventually to Love. How great is our symbolic imagination Always use some form of love cultivation exercise in your warm ups. The inner smile, forgiveness and metta (compassion) practices are ideal for this. They are great tuning mechanisms which point us like a radio dial toward the true Love.
(ii) If the patient stammers, I say I can assure you that you can talk perfectly, and, furthermore, that you will have absolute self-confidence. You will stammer no more, and will speak fluently, in fact, you will become an orator you will have no more difficulty whatsoever, and will feel at perfect ease you will no longer feel nervous, but will feel absolutely self-reliant and competent. You will always succeed, etc. To save repetition the reader is referred to the gramophone record section for suitable auto-suggestion.
Then, beginning in the late 1980s and extending into the 1990s, Murray-Jobsis further developed and expanded specialized techniques for working with the severely disturbed patient, based on a developmental psychoanalytic framework and designed to supply missing developmental experiences. Building on therapy techniques and clinical work begun in 1976, Murray-Jobsis developed and elaborated techniques of nurturance in hypnotic imagery for the development of bonding and a positive relational capacity and for the formation of a positive self-image. In addition, imagery techniques utilizing hypnosis to foster separation-individuation based on mastery and competence rather than abandonment were also developed. These techniques were based on a developmental framework and emphasized the creation of 'healing scripts'. With these 'healing scripts' patients were encouraged to create positive imaginary past experiences as a restitution for missing or developmentally damaging past real-life...
(3) Next, we work with feeling anger, mortification, or low self-esteem when receiving criticism or blame, such as for working poorly. Suppose we successfully deconstruct the experience so that we do not overreact to hearing these words. We may still be hypersensitive to the person's negative energy. To avoid upset, we need to let that energy pass through us without aversion or fear, as we learned in Exercise Twenty. When we relax and see the person's energy as a wave of clear light activity, it cannot harm us. Then, we recall and deconstruct feeling guilty or cold with someone who overreacted when we constructively criticized (2) We then remember being the agent of things going well in a relationship. We had been trying our best to be a loving friend or partner and our efforts had succeeded. Recalling any feelings of being the self-sacrificing martyr or worries that we would inevitably slip and show our true nature, we deconstruct these tensions. We try to imagine continuing to act...
Many eating-disordered patients tend to be resistant to treatment, just as Coman and Evans (1995) emphasized. Eating disorders involve body image, self-image, social relationships, and other complex variables that complicate treatment. Thus, it is important to devise a varied approach to treatment to suit their individual needs (Coman & Evans, 1995). Furthermore, because bulimia nervosa often involves an issue of control, such as a fear of being controlled by others, it is important that patients develop a clear-cut understanding of hypnosis to eliminate ideas that it is something that could control them or serve as a magical solution to their problems (Hornyak, 1996). Thus, it is essential that the therapist address myths about hypnosis while establishing the therapeutic alliance before employing the method (Barabasz, 2000). Once this is done, various approaches can be used to identify and ameliorate the patient's distorted cognitions and emotional conflicts that are precipitating...
A permissive approach to self-hypnosis which emphasizes positive experiences of physical changes acts to reframe a negative self-image or previously confusing symptoms. I begin by briefly outlining the fight or flight response, then contrast the physical and emotional changes of the relaxation response. I ask the patient to choose a pleasurable visual or auditory image to focus his her awareness.
The final part of the show is very important to me, he says. That little five minutes where you really get the chance to give the people some benefits from it. It's just quiet, it's not preachy, but it's there you will have a great self-confidence 'hate' is a word that you'll lose from your vocabulary as though it's a process that's beneath the dignity of your intellect.their powers of concentration are going to be better, they'll be able to relax and sleep better.
Scagnelli (1974, 1975, 1976, 1977) published a series of studies on the therapeutic integration of hypnosis into psychotherapy with schizophrenic and personality disorder patients. In the 1974 paper, Scagnelli reported successful clinical work with an acute schizophrenic male patient. The patient was diagnosed in two prior hospitalizations as an acute affective schizophrenic. He experienced alternating delusional patterns of grandiosity and threat. His threatening delusions centered around fears that he was about to die or that he was turning into an animal. His grandiose delusions centered around feelings that he was 'designated' to heal other patients. Hypnosis was utilized to help the patient access his anxiety-laden feelings of inadequacy. With the use of hypnosis the patient was able to access and reframe his past experiences. He was then able to build a more positive sense of self-esteem. Specific hypnotic techniques included relaxation for the reduction of anxiety hypnotic...
Again the choice of the better technique will depend on our underlying analysis of the systems involved. If we have analysed a suppressed anger then the first method has clear advantages. If we have discovered an immature self-image - that criticism activates a childlike response - then the second can be recommended. Again notice that the approach is not determined by the SYMPTOM, but by the TOTAL PROCESS.
In addition, current hypnotic techniques for utilizing hypnosis with the severely disturbed patient include specific techniques designed to deal with their specific developmental deficits. The technique of renurturing with hypnotic imagery is designed to create the capacity for initial bonding relatedness and self-love, utilizing images of the adult patient and the therapist as a composite 'mother'.
So meditation is an exercise in self-love, not by trying to force anything, but by accepting whatever is happening just as it is, by being willing to experience our thoughts, feelings, and emotions, just as they are. When we do this, we create a harmony within that has a way of being reflected back to us in the outer world as well. When we do not struggle with ourselves inside, we see this reflected back to us as lack of struggle on the outside.
Gossip is probably the most evil, deadly, miserable way to communicate. Don't use it, don't participate in it, and don't respond to it. You give away so much of who you are when you spread or even listen to gossip. A gossiper is someone who is very insecure, whose self esteem is dependent on finding fault in others, and whose world honors the small, weak, and petty. Anything shared with the gossiper likely will become public knowledge and will be used against the person who shared the information.
To gain a feeling of self-worth or of being needed, or to feel more secure by taking control of things, as with my mother who could not resist correcting how I chop vegetables. We then repeat aloud, I shall refrain from offering my unneeded or unwanted help, opinion, or advice.
During the third phase, we turn our attention back to ourselves. Skipping the practice of looking in a mirror, we repeat the procedure as above. First, we use it to deconstruct the deceptive appearance of our current self-image as our seemingly inherent, concrete identity, independ Next, we place before us the series of photos of ourselves. Using them merely as a point of reference, we repeat the procedure to deconstruct the deceptive appearance of the self-images we hold about our past as constituting our inherent identity then. Lastly, we similarly deconstruct the deceptive feeling of being someone who, by inherent nature, feels a certain way about him or herself as we were in the past.
TEACHERS AND THE WAY THEY CONTROL THE ORGANISATION AND STUDENTS IS THE HAZARD. Readers should note that this wxternal manipulation and exploitation can only succeed in the case of weak ego & the lack of self-reliance, confidence and independence on the part of the case of a weak ego & the lack of self-reliance, confidence and independence on the part of the students.
The universal search for existential meaning asserts itself gradually. The way the search phenomenon evolves is well illustrated in a recent study of SMD subjects. They had volunteered to be immersed in the quiet warmth of water tanks.7 Tank isolation isolates subjects comfortably from most external stimuli. After repeated sessions the subjects finally drop off notions about their physical self-image and its relationships. Their thinking then evolves. They start to think about new ways they can relate to other persons. They develop new orientations toward larger issues of context, not content. They discover how inherently ambiguous it is to define self in terms of the usual, fixed, physical boundaries of self other, inside outside. Continuing to focus on this ambiguity, they then recognize how artificial was the manner in which they had earlier defined their self-identity. At this point they start seeing things afresh not new landscapes, but with new eyes .
Buddhism teaches that there are three kinds of problems you can have with self-esteem thinking that you are worse than others, thinking that you are better, or thinking that you are as good as others. Why include thinking that you are as good as others Because you are still comparing.
It combines the daily exercises we covered last month concerning Positive Self Image. Just to jog your memory here they are again - Choosing different goals may be necessary or simply rewriting or rewording them will often work wonders. You can never have enough of a Positive Self Image or for that matter an I Can Factor' so you must never neglect these two vital areas. If you do these things you cannot fail.
If you already have a strong Personal Self Image great then the exercises that follow will simple maintain and build on it. But even the most secure and confident person needs a bit of extra help. I do not want you to analyse these exercises just take them on trust and follow the instructions.
Habit control-stress control self-image improvement skill enhancement lack of energy This was one of my most difficult cases. Many things had to be dealt with poor self-image, negative feelings toward men in general, fear of releasing her toughness and allowing her femininity to emerge, and many other factors. 1. To deal with the self-image, negative feelings about men, etc. My job was to get her to forgive herself and to forgive all others and to rebuild her self-image. For the most part, I used the standard techniques found in this book and was quite successful.
Now, prior to and during my initial training and learning, I was quite unsure about myself in many ways I experimented with lots of the things I learned with self-hypnosis and different aspects of the standard NLP approaches to overcome this uncertainty and lack of confidence in my ability to do what I wanted to do, but none of them seemed to work for me. I still got those butterflies in my tummy and lacked a real sense of self-esteem, in fact I felt nervous about doing what I wanted to do (what if it all went wrong and I failed ).
Methods have served to give you ease, self-confidence, and an almost instinctive use of your magnetic powers in the direction of influencing other persons. You will also see the part played in your development by the special exercises in the direct flash, which I gave you in a preceding chapter. You now begin to see why I have led you to the present point by degrees, do you not
As I traveled around the world conducting seminars on personal development, I met thousands of people who were suffering from a lack of self confidence. Although they were often not aware of it, this lack of faith in their own abilities, this mutilated self image, undermined their very existence. All had developed an inferiority complex, to some degree. Even people who seemed to be bursting with confidence were often only maintaining a facade, compensating for their inner lack of self esteem by putting up a brave front. They may have fooled others for awhile, but they inevitably suffered from periods of terrible, recurring anxiety.
Do you and your life-partner want to be more creative Does you or your friend want to become more intuitive Do you want to become more spiritual Do you want to become more creative Do you want to build your self-image Do you want to build personal self-esteem or self-esteem in you partner
Tape 4 Module 41 Applying hypnosis for insomnia Module 42 Hypnosis for Pain control Module 43 Exercise Applying hypnosis for pain control Module 44 Hypnosis for self-confidence Module 45 Exercise Applying hypnosis for self-confidence Module 46 Hypnosis for different types of self improvement & motivation Module 47 Exercise Applying hypnosis for general self-improvement Module 48 The safe harbor of hypnosis applications and the safest harbor of all a little-known and extremely powerful method that can protect you and your practice. Module 49 Stage hypnosis & educational lectures demonstrations
Episodes of throwing tantrums or even just having angry outbursts (i.e., loss of one's temper ) may well serve to fuel negative self-judgments and poor self-esteem (O'Connor, 2001), damage relationships with others (Emery & Campbell, 1986), and generally reinforce a sense of personal incompetence (Burns, 1999b). Likewise, missing opportunities to assert oneself, thereby defining oneself as a helpless victim of others' insensitivity, can easily reinforce poor self-esteem, anger, and depression (Yapko, 1992, 1997). Thus, recognizing and managing angry feelings skillfully are clearly important parts of empowering people, especially depressed people who typically feel disempowered (Meichenbaum, 1977).
But the full moon of enlightenment does have its dark side. What else could be said against Zen To Blyth, Zen had a very weak missionary spirit when compared with Christian standards.1 He believed it was also possessed of a certain cold-heartedness was individualistic to the point of selfishness, self-reliant to the point of aloofness, and amoral in theory but not in practice. If such were true, had Eisai made the right choice when he decided to import this kind of movement to strengthen his country Zen isn't for everyone, probably not for most. Few beginners appreciate how much system lurks behind its paradoxes and its seemingly haphazard training methods. Students soon become doubly confused, for they sense both ambiguities within Zen and flat-out contradictions. We summarize the latter in figure 20, which presents them as diametrical opposites within a field of paradox. For example how does a person go about being both self-reliant and egoless at the same...
Step One Prior to entering hypnosis, choose what feelings you would like to instruct your brain and body to experience and amplify in the coming moments - for example, it could be your confidence, your self-esteem, your motivation, your metabolism, your energy levels, your determination, your mental calmness or whatever else you choose. What would you like some more of right now So from here, journey into your brain, into all the places in your brain that controls everything in your body. You have created a beautiful level of receptivity in you body right now. Your body is very open to sending messages and new information, communicating with all the cells in your body. Somewhere in your brain there is a place that controls your confidence, your self-esteem, your motivation, your metabolism, your determination or whatever else you chose in step one.
As a result of encouraging yourself so much more, each time you create some internal communication of any kind with yourself, as you are more and more supportive, this is going to naturally increase your self-esteem and your self-confidence too In turn, that builds a stronger foundation for your success and grows your ability to achieve more. An individual that has low self-esteem, for example, may well focus upon things in their life which have failed or gone wrong rather than focusing on their successes, things they have done well or encouraging themselves. In a given identical situation or circumstance, someone with a high level of self-esteem will look for what they did well, they are encouraging, and continue to remind themselves of their achievement or their success. They use their own resources, their own progressive and positive thoughts and successful experiences as a way of continually enhancing their energy and motivation.
Evil hypnosis is what I call the popular view of hypnosis as something that s used by devious agencies or individuals to control people's minds urreptitiously. Mind control or behavior control are possible with hypnosis only temporarily, and only to a similar degree as with other forms of psychotherapy. Roughly the same forces of influence apply in and out of hypnosis. Individual differences and personal psychological needs are much more important in determining our capacity to be lastingly influenced than our state of consciousness in hypnosis. The roles we play under hypnosis are emporary. Permanent change to our personality occurs only when our core self-image is altered., which requires more than just superficial exposure to hypnosis. Hypnosis can be used to some extent as a tool for gaining influence by omeone who betrays our trust in them. It might be slightly easier to take advantage of someone with hypnosis, since they are relaxed, they are not valuating ideas critically, and...
Affirmations can involve specific relaxation instructions, suggestions for behavioral change, imagery for healing, suggestions for improved self-esteem, mantras for success, reminders for attitudinal change, and assertions that everything, in the end, will turn out okay. If you want to change something, write an affirmation that will remind you to do so. Make the affirmation positive, and be certain it describes exactly what you want to achieve.
You have to believe in yourself in your abilities and your knowledge, as people will pick up on any lack of belief on your part before a word is spoken. You must exude undying faith in yourself and cannot stress this enough. I'm not saying that you could never successfully induce anyone without this self-assurance, but you will have one hell of a game filling a stage no matter how small and being good at your job, without it.
Generally speaking, human beings have a strong sense of self-esteem. Yet often they belittle themselves, feeling that they are insignificant. We are often unwilling to undertake great tasks or to strive towards the highest ideals or goals. This is the wrong attitude In fact human beings are of great significance.
Through the body, which in turn promotes self-confidence and a sense of power and effectiveness. And it awakens a deeper connection with a source of meaning and purpose, which inspires and uplifts you in whatever you do. 1 Self-acceptance and freedom from self-criticism Nothing dampens enthusiasm and inhibits effective performance more than the tendency most of us have to put ourselves down, especially under pressure. Through regular meditation, you practice accepting yourself the way you are and noticing the judgments as they arise. Then, when the going gets tough, you can use your meditation skills to gently defuse the self-criticism as you focus on doing your personal best.
Another example of the use of increasing positive feedback loops lies in teaching. As my father, a teacher, first told me, The important thing is to set tests in which they do well from the beginning. This leads to confidence and self-esteem. That in turn leads to better performance in the next test, which can therefore be a little harder. This is an increasing positive feedback loop. The corresponding decreasing positive loop would set in if the tests were too hard confidence would drop performance would drop further, even on the same difficulty of test, and things would steadily deteriorate.
This presentation of natural bliss is also relevant for gaining balanced sensitivity. Many people suffer from low self-esteem. Some even feel guilty if they are happy. Such self-deprecation blocks sensitivity to their own true qualities and prevents attentiveness to those of others. We do not exist, however, in the damning manner our confusion projects. Therefore, we have no reason to feel guilty about feeling comfortable and happy with ourselves. Happiness, in fact, is the natural state of the mind. When we comprehend this point, we automatically feel relief and joy. Feeling good about ourselves naturally leads to feeling comfortable with others, being sensitive to their situation, and being confident to help in whatever way needed.
We begin the third phase by looking in a mirror. Again, we repeat the sequence of fourteen attitudes, directing them now at ourselves as follows. Stilling our mind of stories and uncaring feelings, we try also to release our fixed attitudes and to shed our self-judgments. To dispel our fantasies, we note that we are not the most important person in the world or the only one with problems. Moreover, we try to see that there are no walls preventing us from relating to ourselves. Any self-alienation we feel is based on sheer fiction. Unafraid, we try to feel relief and joy at the possibility of being open and relaxed with ourselves. We then focus with warm understanding and try to exercise self-control not to overreact with low self-esteem and not to be self-destructive. At ease and at peace with ourselves, we soften the expression on our face and try to look with at least a smile in our eyes. We resolve to speak to ourselves kindly, not to put ourselves down, and to treat ourselves in a...
Since we each have a basis level of happiness, regard for others, and self-control, we can conclude that we all have at least some potential to benefit others and ourselves. This means that everyone has acted constructively in the past, to varying degrees. In other words, no one is totally bad. Affirming this is important, particularly regarding ourselves if we suffer from low self-esteem.
But by no means all Buddhists are monks or adepts. What does Buddhism mean for the ordinary person going about his work in the world All through the Buddha's teaching, repeated stress is laid on self-reliance and resolution. Buddhism makes man stand on his own feet, it arouses his self-confidence and energy. The Buddha again and again reminded his followers that there is no one, either in heaven or on earth, who can help them or free them from the results of their past evil deeds.
Metta meditation begins with self and then expands in progressively wider circles, each of which is a little more difficult, a little more of a stretch. From a base of genuine self-love, we gradually expand the focus of our concern. First we expand to those who are closest to us, such as our families, then to our friends, then to neutral individuals or acquaintances, then to enemies those the very thought of whom causes us pain and finally to all beings. This is a progression from easy to hard, in other words, based on the assumption that self-love is most natural and easy, then love of our families, and so on, with love of enemies and universal love the hardest. However, as we have discussed, in our culture it is not always to be assumed that we love ourselves in a true and genuine sense. So it may be easiest at times to water seeds of love by beginning with our partners, our children, or whomever we find it easy to feel loving toward, perhaps even the cat or the dog.
Right through the Teachings of the Buddha, stress is laid on such attributes as self-reliance, self-confidence, resolution, energy, work, effort. Buddhism makes a man or woman stand on his or her own feet and be master or mistress of fate. Mindfulness is also emphasized greatly by the Buddha. For instance, in the Dhammapada1 it is said 'You yourself must make an effort the Buddhas are only teachers. The thoughtful who enter the Way are freed from the bondage of sin.' Again, in the same book, 'Mindfulness is the path of immortality, sloth the path of death. Those who are strenuous do not die those who are slothful are as if dead already.'2
This method of ego-strengthening is recommended following the use of other methods to enhance the patient's esteem otherwise, patients with minimal self-esteem will usually fail to respond positively to step two and further work will be required. This method may be valuable in facilitating greater acceptance of one's own feelings and in promoting assertiveness and self-regard. Ideomotor finger signals should be established prior to using this method. (Ed.)
Tive features that allow us to gain knowledge, to discriminate between what is appropriate and what is not, and to know what to do. For example, when our shoe is untied, we can see the situation, discriminate that something is amiss, and understand what we need to do and how to do it. Moreover, all of us are also capable of focusing. While writing something down, we remain focused on the task. Acknowledging these abilities gives us the self-confidence to sense, understand, and respond sensibly, with focused attention, to others' or our own condition.
You might need just a little boost in self-confidence before a new experience. It's fun to add a new ability to the repertoire of things you can do. Whether your situation is at work or at play, on the ball field or in the classroom, you'll benefit from knowing how to give yourself that extra boost of self-confidence. Self-hypnosis is particularly good for eradicating nervousness.
Because of nervous insecurity, we may feel the need to keep our hands forever busy. Wanting to feel needed, we cannot let others do anything for themselves, like tidy their desk. Doing things for others to gain a feeling of self-worth, however, is merely a form of insensitive exploitation. This is especially true when others do not want our help. Moreover, immersing ourselves in trying to help others often becomes a way to avoid helping ourselves. (2) Grasping at being the recipient of others' actions may also take several forms. Hoping to gain a sense of self-worth from receiving others' service or to lose ourselves by not having to deal with a domestic scene, we may compulsively eat in restaurants. Our insensitivity to our partner's feelings may make the person feel that we do not think he or she can cook. (3) Fear of being the agent of physical actions, fueled by low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence, may make us technophobic We may feel incompetent to handle the latest...
The restoration of self-confidence is one of the easiest and most rapid results that can be achieved by hypnotherapy. The full ego-strengthening routine, suitably reinforced by specific suggestions appropriate to each individual case, has proved invaluable in the treatment of this condition.
In this hypnotic method, the patient is asked to imagine himself or herself as an infant or baby, and then to experience himself herself mothering the little child. Dr. Murray-Jobsis believes that patients will usually perceive the infant as lovable and that this will help facilitate the process of beginning to love and reparent themselves. It provides some restitution for the lack of nurturing and mothering that some patients experienced, and it helps to foster self-love and self-acceptance. The suggestions that follow were taken from an actual case. (Ed.)
For example, suppose we have a baby daughter, or are visiting someone who has, and suppose we are trying to teach the baby to walk. The toddler inevitably falls down. If she stumbles and begins to cry, are we guilty Is it our fault Do we stop trying to teach her to walk Obviously, the baby's success in learning to walk depends primarily on her development of strength, balance, and self-confidence. We merely provide the circumstances for these potentials to mature.
The subject of this script is weight reduction. Its intent is to motivate the person you are hypnotizing to reduce carbohydrate intake, reject harmful foods, and to set realistic weight loss goals, help her to visualize her new self, promote a healthy self-image and celebrate her success.
3-D Representations of Our Own Physical Self-Image in Outside Space Neurochemical Correlates of the Embodied Self-Image in Action Certain of these multimodal cells have been found to respond in intriguing ways. If we imagine that these findings can be extended to humans, it could help explain how we establish some kind of body image that serves as a sensory framework for our subsequent apple-grasping sensorimotor actions. But can nerve cells really insert vague notions corresponding to a self-image into the way a person acts After all, internal representations,'' and body image'' are mere words. Can the processes that these words substitute for leap across the next synapses, and become actualized in adaptive behaviors out there in extrapersonal space And could they tentatively personalize this external space, as it were Using special video monitor techniques, Japanese researchers have trained monkeys to redirect similar learning processes back onto themselves. The video findings...
Meditation helps you gain rest, self-confidence and compassion. Your concentration at school and work becomes sharper. Thus, you accomplish much more in a much shorter period of time - because your mind no longer distracts you, doubts you, confuses you. You set out on a task and get it done in a very thorough and complete manner. Your teachers, your employers and your co-workers will notice that your productivity has skyrocketed. Overall, you are going to be healthier, happier, more rested and less cranky by meditating regularly.
We may also give other factors related to clear light mind. For example, if a loved one needs self-confidence, we may recall Buddha-nature and transform the self-confidence we feel in our natural abilities into belief in our loved one's innate talents. Radiating confidence to the person, we try to imagine our loved one filled with the white light of both self-confidence and our faith in him or her. When we repeat this process during actual encounters with the person, our confidence reinforces his or her self-esteem. We may follow a similar procedure if a loved one feels his or her self-dignity threatened, for instance by the ravages of disease or old age. Tapping the self-pride we feel in view of our innate good qualities, we try to imagine self-dignity filling the person with white light. We reinforce it by also sending the person our respect for him or her. Then, we try to picture our loved one acting with strengthened self-esteem and ourselves interacting with sincere deep respect.
We know that in our modern age humanity lives in fear of mass destruction. Terrors and stresses of every kind threaten us everywhere and impinge upon our freedom. Why has the world deteriorated to such a state According to Buddhism, the answer lies in the fact that we human beings have lost the sense of purpose in our lives. We deny our own worth and live with hollow and illusory emotions. Our lives have become either malevolent or corrupted. We are either intoxicated with passion and desire for wealth, or maddened by vengeful violence. Material covetousness and emotional negativity lead this world towards the sombre brink of death.
The third phase of the exercise follows the same procedure. We skip, however, working with the mirror for the same reason as not practicing while facing a partner. First, we focus on our current self-image. To deconstruct its deceptive appearance as our permanent, singular identity, we try to see it in the context of other aspects of our personality and behavior, both in the past and hypothetically in the future. Then, we repeat the procedure to deconstruct any seemingly fixed emotions we might feel toward ourselves as we are now.
Hypnosis does many things that are immediately relevant to helping depressed individuals. Hypnosis (a) helps people focus, (b) facilitates the acquisition of new skills, (c) encourages people to define themselves as more resourceful than previously realized (enhancing their self-image as a result), (d) makes the transfer of information from one context to another easier and more efficient, (e) establishes helpful subjective associations more intensively, (f) provides learning to be more experiential and meaningful, and (g) defines people as active managers of their internal world. Hypnosis helps people sharpen key perceptual distinctions, allows them a safe distance from powerful feelings, and helps them proceed with new possibilities in a deliberate behavioral sequence, rehearse new responses, develop undeveloped personal resources, and detach from a sense of victimhood. No one gets past depression without achieving all of these things and more.
The point of this practice with our feelings and emotions is not to become more self-conscious, but more self-aware. Self-consciousness, with which we view ourselves with either low or excessively high self-esteem, disables us from acting naturally. We make ourselves and others feel uncomfortable. With self-awareness, however, or self-understanding, we avoid compulsively saying or doing foolish things that we later regret.
In general, the onset of depression is associated with the number of anxiety disorders present, the persistence of anxious avoidance behavior, and the degree of psychosocial impairment (Wittchen et al., 2000). Indeed, depressive symptoms often appear to be a reaction to anxious symptomatology. Anxious individuals may feel bad about themselves, their environment, and their future, facilitating the development of depression (Sanderson & McGinn, 1997). Alternatively, an individual's depressive symptoms may reflect a reduction in external reinforcement subsequent to anxious avoidance strategies, or may develop as a consequence of the negative effects of anxious symptomatology on self-esteem (Brown, Campbell, Lehman, Grisham, & Mancill, 2001 Brown, Schulberg, Madonia, Shear, & Houck, 1996).
As the marble gets warmer, you can relax deeper continuing to release the remnants of anger anxiety and depression physically and emotionally. In this neutral place this healing place feel the quiet feel the peacefulness . feel the safety . feel the confidence . feel the power . feel the freedom . feel the growth feel the maturity feel the strength feel the change. Feel the negative remnants attracted to the marble and released harmlessly into the air. See the future positive productive secure and satisfying. Continue the healing process on your own as you continue your own self-hypnosis sessions twice daily. . It is your personal tool for recovery, anger control, lifting depression, personal power, and success. Use it. Do it. It is time for you to be in charge to leave the past behind to move into a positive present and future. To treat yourself with more care . with more dignity . with more respect . and with more self love. .
And it is virtually perfect, this almighty I. Can it ever, even rarely, fall into error No. It makes excuses and shifts the blame. Always the fault must lie in unfortunate external circumstances, never in its own imperfections. Its vanity is constant. Observe how it monograms, grooms in the mirror, and polishes its self-image. It also gets indignant, which means that it is already so self-righteous that it can wax indignant. Highly personal biases determine its agenda. Attitudes filter what the I perceives, and distort what it then thinks is true. Some of these responses may begin to seem familiar. now form the mosaic of our personal identity, our self-image. We shift our behavior from that of one role model to another depending on the situation.
The primary goals of psychological therapies for anxiety states are the exposure of the patient (via imagery or reality) to the situation provoking the anxiety, thereby allowing deconditioning, habituation or desensitization cognitive re-evaluations of the situation to alter the perception of threat determining the personal significance (symbolic) of the anxiety provocation increasing the sense of self-efficacy, behaviorally or cognitively, in the patient's ability to deal with the anxiety-eliciting situation and the symptoms and the rehearsal and effecting of coping strategies.
Improvement in self-esteem I expect to see a change in the patient's sense and stability of a positive self-image which can be reflected in the sentence completion test, the psychiatric interview and specific projective testing such as the Thematic Apperception Test (TAT).